LesbiHonest — My ex-gf broke up with me about 3 months ago. She had asked to sleep with me, then broke up with me 3 days later (it didn’t happen). I felt like worthless trash after she dumped me. I felt she only liked me for sex, and I attempted suicide soon after (also due to PMDD problems). She still doesn’t understand what she did to make me hate her so much. The problem is, I’m thinking of seeing someone else, and the memory of what she did to me, how she made me feel, is still there. How do I move on?

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My ex-gf broke up with me about 3 months ago. She had asked to sleep with me, then broke up with me 3 days later (it didn't happen). I felt like worthless trash after she dumped me. I felt she only liked me for sex, and I attempted suicide soon after (also due to PMDD problems). She still doesn't understand what she did to make me hate her so much. The problem is, I'm thinking of seeing someone else, and the memory of what she did to me, how she made me feel, is still there. How do I move on?

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From experience, a bad breakup is tough to move on from after it’s ended. I’m still getting over my last relationship…it ended almost a year ago, but we had been together for almost 4 years, so it’s rough. I’m just recently coming to grips that the person wasn’t worth my time in the end and that I’m better off without them. They treated me like shit, used me on multiple levels (sexual, financial, emotional, etc.), cheated on me and left me for that person before telling me what had been going on for months, and then proceeded to pretend like I didn’t exist whenever we would accidentally bump into one another.

Long story short, it takes time. If you are starting to have feelings for another person and could see it going somewhere positive, then go with it. It could be your heart telling you that you’re ready. The bad memories that came with the previous relationship(s) will stay with you, unfortunately, but you can’t let that stop you from potentially being really happy with someone better for you. Those bad feelings will fade with time. Meanwhile, you can make new, better memories with someone else. You just have to keep telling yourself that you are worth more than how she was treating you and that you are better than that. You could mean the world to someone as well as be completely content with your own self. Don’t let the bullshit someone else gave you set a precedence for the rest of your relationships. Just stay positive and better things will come to you.

Best wishes, and let me know how things go!