I identify as queer.

juhnetika:

In case y’all didn’t know. 

Lesbian alternatives to the phrase “Cockblock”

minkleburg:

1) Vagected
2) Twat swat
3) Clam jam
4) Clitorference
5) Beaver impeder
6) Taco blocko
7) Scissorception

Clitorference and twat-swat are by far my favorites. 

justjasper:

Think women have achieved equality? Think again.

thedaysarenotfullenough:

We Can’t Be Equal While:

Gender Roles
1. Men are the default and women are the Other (and therefore lesser).
2. Being called “girly” or a “sissy” or “pussy” are some of the worst insults you can give a man.
3. When a woman shows confidence in herself, she is said to “have balls”, or conversely she is a “man-eater”, “ball-buster”, or a “bitch” because she was “too” assertive.
4. Men are beat up, ridiculed, or made fun of for being “effeminate” and women are beat up, ridiculed, or made fun of for being “masculine”.
5. Many people get angry when a woman questions the intentions behind a “chivalrous” act from a man.
6. There are men who refuse “chivalrous” acts from a woman, such as refusing to walk through a door that a woman holds open for them, while believing that it is rude for a woman to exercise the same right to refuse.
7. Women can’t express anger without the very real fear of being accused of “hysterics” or being “shrill”.
8. Women get scolded for “un-ladylike” behaviour: using coarse language, talking frankly about sex or other “impolite” topics, confidently voicing one’s dissenting opinion, etc.
9. People continue to believe and perpetuate gender essentialism based on bad science or using actual studies to “prove” the innateness of gender roles when the study itself supports no such thing.

Relationships, Sex, and Sexuality

10. For different-sex couples, women are expected to take their husband’s name, or at the very least hyphenate, but many men still balk at the idea of even considering adopting their wife’s name. If a woman decides to keep her name, both partners are interrogated and shamed by friends and family.
11. For same-sex couples, people think it is okay to ask “who’s the woman/man of the couple?”
12. Women are seen as the “gatekeepers” to morality/sexuality, charged with the duty of fending off the advances of men. If they fail then they were “asking for” it and/or are “damaged goods”. Their clothing/actions will always be questioned to see if they were “leading on” the man at all.
13. Men are seen as “beasts” who are unable to control their “raging hormones” – which absolves them of guilt for “improper” sex (anything from date rape to sex outside of marriage) but also paints them as uncivilized brutes.
14. Women are “sluts”, men are “players”.
15. Women’s worth goes down according to how many sexual partners people think she has had.
16. Men’s worth goes up according to how many sexual partners people think he has had.
17. We live in a rape culture where many people continue to blame the victims of rape and domestic violence.
18. We buy into the myth that all men (even minors) are, at all times, willing to fuck a “gorgeous” woman and any man who would pass up sex with a remotely attractive woman is deserving of ridicule.
19. Wives/mothers are still expected to do most of the home/childcare, even if they have a job outside the home.
20. Fathers/husbands are seen as bumbling dolts who are mentally incapable of cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, or any other traditionally feminine task.
21. There are significantly more stay-at-home moms than there are dads.
22. Men are expected to pay on a date, and some men expect women to put out for this “service”.

The Public Sphere

23. Men continue to be a clear majority in the government, prominent positions in businesses, and other public places of power.
24. There have been so few female leaders in most countries. For instance, in the Group of Eight:
    • America has never had a female president.
    • Canada’s first, and only, female prime minister was Kim Campell [1993].
    • Britain’s first, and only, female prime minister was Margaret Thatcher [1979-1990].
    • France’s first, and only, female prime minister was Edith Cresson [1991-1992].
    • Italy has never had a female prime minister.
    • Japan has never had a female prime minister.
    • Russia has never had a female president.
    • Germany’s first, and only, female Chancellor is Angela Merkel [2005].
25. Pakistan, which is held up by many Americans as a “backward” country regarding women’s rights, elected a female prime minister, Benazir Bhutto, twice while Americans were still debating whether or not America was “ready” for a female president (here are some other female leaders who have been elected while America has been dragging its feet).
26. There are still areas in our so-called “equal” societies where sex discrimination, sexual harassment and the glass ceiling are alive and kicking.
27. It’s considered “big news” when articles tell mothers who work outside the home that they “can’t have it all”, but not so much when articles call for work reforms and male responsibility.
28. Women in the sex trade, even those who have chosen the life, are treated as sub-human on a regular basis.
29. It is not seen as sex discrimination to include harmful (and expensive!) items such as makeup and high heels in the requirements for a woman’s dress code while having no such constraints on the men’s dress code.
30. Women are still discouraged from entering the sciences by social stereotypes, lack of job availability, and the continuing belief that women just aren’t smart enough.
31. It is considered appropriate to attack a female public figure because of her appearance and fashion sense.
32. One of the first ways to discredit women who speak up in public forums is to threaten sexual violence.
33. Women are disproportionately affected by fat discrimination in the workforce and other places.

Appearance, Bodily Sovereignty, and Personhood

34. Men’s bodies belong to no one but themselves; women’s uteri are seen as the property of men, the government, and even strangers.
35. Women’s place as full-fledged legal and social adults is not assured.
36. Women are seen first and foremost by their physical attributes and secondly by their relevant qualities.
37. The double-standard of beauty is camouflaged under myths of empowerment and liberation.
38. Women feel the need to undergo a potentially dangerous operation on their healthy vaginas in order to please their husbands/boyfriends by striving towards an unrealistic beauty standard set by mainstream porn.
39. It is seen as appropriate for stranger and friend alike to give unsolicited comments on a woman’s appearance: her weight, fashion, leg/armpit hair, etc.
40. Eating disorders, caused primarily by our society’s unhealthy obsession with fat, are still rampant among women (significantly more than among men).
41. There are contests like “Pimp My Ride”.

And many, many other reasons.

(Source: loveintheshadowsistheonlykind)

I hate labeling.

thusspakekate:

tusod:

Labeling leads to stigma. Stigma is probably my least favorite thing in the world. 

So, I have a question. Why do we feel the need to label ourselves? Is it because of pride? A need for a sense of identity, and a fear that these people, these outliers, these fringes-of-society, might actually be just like us? That everything that we’ve been taught to think is wrong and unacceptable is right here in our houses? In ourselves?

I wrote a paper on this for a Queer Theory class I took and I don’t want to get all academic and bore you (or myself), but I do think that at this moment in time, self-identification is important because it has the ability to create a sense of community. The feeling of belonging to a community cannot be underrated and the whole strength in numbers aspect allows for more effective political agitation in regards to establishing equality under the law and fair treatment in society. Community means having a safety-net and a family, as well. A shared culture and experience that can be comforting and reassuring in a larger western society that can feel isolating, restrictive, and conforming. Community allows people to know that they’re not alone and they’re not the only ones. It gives you injokes and secrets. Etc, etc, I’m sure you get the point.

This is personally why I like and identify with the term queer, because as a catch-all umbrella phrase it doesn’t attempt to describe my sexual practices/gender identity specficially, a large variety of people who don’t have sex the way i do or under their gender in the way i do can still use the same moniker and we can still be unified into an effective political and cultural block. So yeah, labeling sucks when it drives people apart, but its so important because it also has the ability to bring us together.

wank wank wank, that sounded so sappy. fuck.

Forever this ^^^

http://sophieeeeeeee.tumblr.com/

^^This girl has a gay-bashing blog, complete with instructions on “how to show lgtbq people that their behavior is wrong.” It’s completely hate-filled. She finds gays (mostly lesbians) on tumblr and outs them to their friends, families, schools, and businesses. Now, I know that some of you are going to want to send her equal hate mail, but I stress that you shouldn’t! Please, just report her to Tumblr for cyberbullying, because this needs to be stopped!

I figured I would submit to this blog so that your wider follower selection could help spread the word!

So it’s been a while since I checked this tumblr and I just received this.

She’s already been banned, but I’ll put this out there anyway. It shows that when the tumblr community comes together, we can bring down oppressive, heterosexist bigots together. 

Any more out there? Spread the word. 

My lover went to a business conference this weekend…

juhnetika:

And while there, Ellen Degeneres was a special guest speaker. She shook some of the conference attendees hands, including my lover. 

My thoughts: My lover uses that hand on me —> Ellen shook that hand —> Ellen has finger-fucked me. 

Right?

I mean, right?

The more articles I read about the Stonewall Riots that were published in newspapers from 1969…

juhnetika:

…the more pissed off I get. 

The paper I’m currently writing is supposed to describe ‘how the media viewed an event in the 60s’ and naturally, I picked the Stonewall Riots. 

These articles were so slanderous and full of bigotry and negativity, it makes you think about the people and companies producing them. If this is how people viewed the LGBTQ community, it’s no wonder there was retaliation. 

I knew of the events, of course, but reading these articles that were actually written during that time, it really puts things into a different perspective. 

There is no excuse for including the terms “fags”, “dykes”, “queens”, “fairies”, and “forces of faggotry” in an article that is just supposed to be delivering the news to people. One article even concluded by stating “Watch out. Their liberation is under way.” as if people need to take cover and hide from the community like we carry the plague. 

The way the writers were describing the events really makes me sick. As if just talking about it was disgusting to them. 

It was a positive event that marked the beginning of the pride movement that still carries on today. How could these people have been so rude and prejudiced? 

I gotta question. I’m going to Boston

from July 12th to the 19th. I was wondering if you guys know of any gayborhood in Boston? I want to know what the best gay places are and if there is anything special going on during that time. Do you guys have any advice for me? I know I could probably look it up but locals have better insight. I would really apperciate it! 

Here! I bribe you with two girls kissing:

So DADT being repealed is definitely great.

vladimirblue:

But what am I supposed to say to recruiters now? That was the only way I could get them to stop following me.

A story from a follower who would rather stay anonymous:

I love that I start smiling unknowingly when I’m in the middle of doing something because you’re on my mind.  People ask why I’m smiling and it just makes me smile more because then I think why I am smiling, and I realize I’m thinking about you.  They tell me that this is only teenage love, but I just laugh and smile because they don’t know anything.  They tell me it won’t work because you live so far away.  They tell me I’m silly for thinking I’m going to move in with you when we’re both old enough.  But I don’t care.  I don’t care what they think.  Because they only think, they don’t know.  They don’t know what you mean to me.  They don’t know our story.  They don’t know who we are as one person.  They only know me and what I’ve said about you.  Then in 20 years when we’re living in a studio apartment in New York I will hold you and smile.  I will think to myself that I knew all along this was true.  I will laugh as I tell them where I am at that point and who I’m with.  And they will feel silly for underestimating the love of two teen-aged girls.